2016年7月15日星期五

Entry 1 From an American guy

Now, Ive been in china for three months. But, I havent been keeping a blog like this until right now. First post you'll show me some love. I suppose it's a matter of gestation, needing some time to ferment everything. After all China is A. Massive, and B. Hectic, everything is in a swirl of movement, takes some time to think through what you're seeing.
So now we're going to do some back up story, I came here in January, exactly on American New Years. An auspicious beginning if there ever was one. The flight to China didn't go exactly as planned, for whatever in life ever goes exactly as planned. I arrived in Shanghai after an 11 hours flight at midnight, looking like an ill-tempered zombie I'm sure. An hour of time was used to pass through customs and dear lord put that visa that I struggled over to good use, AND to collect my boulders of luggage. By the time this was all done it was well past midnight, then, I was to catch a bus outside of the airport and ride it to a hotel close by, where I would graciously be provided a room for the night. That's right my first night in China and I was being treated to a fancy hotel room, this was definitely the right choice. Oh by the way they weren't providing me a hotel JUST to be nice, my flight from America had been delayed eight freaking hours, way later than the time I was supposed to arrive in Shanghai, this made me obviously miss the connecting flight to Nanjing where I would have met the family. So the airline put me up for the night no strings attached. Then I would catch the flight to Nanjing the next day and be on my merry way to the hopefully wonderful arms of my host family. Along the way, ASC is always by my side, working with me and texting me throughout all of this, keeping spirits high and making sure I didn't lapse into a sleep deprived coma. From the very beginning, ASC has been a pillar of strength and support, thanks ASC.
I also want to mention, I got to haggle my first night in China. That's right, getting super friendly with the locals. Since I arrived so late, the bus that was supposed to take me to the hotel, had conveniently stopped running, great knowing this, there was a bevy of taxi drivers around, spotting a chance to make a few RMB off of us airport cattle. Us needing some ways to get to our hotels so late in the evening, they knew we would need them too. Eventually I caught on, there was definitely no bus around, and after watching my fellow nighttime flight mates slowly disappearing of with these drivers, so, the driver and I got our cross cultural communication going, he quickly explained that yes the bus is long gone, and that he would drive me to the hotel. This is where I prove that I'm definitely not the brightest bulb in the room. I asked how much it would cost to get to the hotel, he explained that it's really close by, only 10 RMB. To my exhausted brain and no logic whatsoever, I told him I wanted to pay less, he kindly told me, "no" and that concluded my career as a hotshot businessman. I also want to point out that his car was parked, through a maze of bushes and barbed wire. To me this gave an impression of, dear lord am I going to be kidnapped? I wasn't kidnapped by the way, he was a nice guy, I wish I had made friends with him and snagged his Wechat. We made it to the hotel and I quickly made best friends with the bed instead. Thus ending my day and a half journey from America to China. This was my first experience in China. I got to have a fancy hotel room to myself, complete with a TV and instant coffee. Things were looking up, by midnight the next day I would meet the family, ASC and get started on this whole, Au pair thing. That's it, tune in next time for more thrilling descriptions of life in China. 

2016年7月1日星期五

Au Pair Diary Ⅱ From a Russian Girl

My life now:

I feel much better now. I like my host family, I like the  kids. I really have a feeling of "elder sister".
Also I notice they have been improving their English. It makes me feel so good because I really spend a lot of energy for that.
Of course in the end of a week  I feel so tired (psychically) and exhaust (emotionally).  Honestly it's really hard to be with children all the time, even if I like them because I always take  to heart  everything.  It means I'm almost never relaxed with children. So,  my days-off help me to recuperate and start a new week. Hah, yes,  for me a week begins on Friday and ends on Wednesday because my day-off is Thursday :)
So, now I  got used  to live in China. Of course I can't say, I got used to everything here.  
Sometimes I still can't understand if I do something right or wrong. I see the difference between our cultures. Actually I'm used to live western way that's why from time to time I have a feeling like I do something wrong. I wouldn't like my host family and others think I'm a rude girl because I never do something rude or bad purposely.  I'd like my host family and Chinese friends tell me if I do something wrong. It's my bad side. Each time when I make mistakes I always suffer a lot.

 I do like:
1. To eat by chopsticks :D
2. To open something new for me
3. To learn Chinese lifestyle
4. To meet new interesting people
5. To talk to my host mom
6. Chinese food (especially fruits and fried vegetables)
7. China helps me to learn me and open my hidden sides.

What have been helping me to adapt?

* First of all it's my host mom. She is so perfect. She is a beautiful, smart and open-minded woman. I think I'm so lucky to be an au-pair in this family. She really does everything to make me feel like I'm at my real home. Also I like to talk to her as with a friend. It's great because she tells me many interesting things and I may share with my stories and trust her some secrets. I'm so thankful to her.

* My new friends. I met really nice people here. Wherever I have lived  for me it was always very important to find someone whom  I could talk, go out and have fun with. When I'd just come to China  I realized that almost nobody spoke English. So I felt loneliness.  But then almost every day I met new persons who wanted and could talk to me. Finally I have  found the good friends who really make my life better. Each time when I chill with them I truly feel so relaxed! They make me forget my troubles, cares and worries and help me enjoy my Chinese life. Emotionally it's quite complicated to be with children all the time. That's why my days off give me a  fit of energy for а next week. And they let me feel the lovely freedom.

* My family, close friends and bf. They helped and supported me very much!!  Even if my parents didn't want me to go to China, as I said before.  Anyway when I came to China they always called me and supported me. My close friends and  bf knew my real emotions and feelings and they wrote me every day, cheered me up and made me feel better.  I'm unreal thankful to them.

* My business. I have a lot of things to do when I have free time. That's why I'm never bored. For example,  I read 3 different books, I have a blog and I should write the articles,  I still learn French and Spanish + now I learn Chinese, and also I help my friends with English and do some exercises for improving my level. I play piano, I help my Argentinian  friend with his Argentinian - Chinese cultural project and etc.

* My personality. First of all I  know my host family spent a lot energy, time and money to find me and invite me. I respect it that's why  I should do my best. In the second place it's a feeling of responsibility.   If I started  to do something I must finish it. I suppose it's too easy to give up. Sometimes I think November is so far. But I know I'll  be proud of me when I have done that! More by token I always can find positive sides of anything and I can be patient when I dislike something.
Also it's important to be able  to accept  the new things even if you don't like them. Honestly I can't say I like everything in China, but I'm able to accept that and make up my mind to that.
I guess there are necessary traits for au-pairs:  being open-minded, easy-going, responsible,  talkative, positive, adaptive.

Generally, I like China. I'm so happy  to have this kind of experience. And  I'm very glad to learn one of the hardiest languages in the world!!
China helps me understand who I am.